A couple’s counselor has been married for 52 years. These are her top relationship secrets.

Carve out time for sex and togetherness

Grossman said that sex is paramount in every decade of marriage. “Being naked together nurtures your relationship,” she said.

“It is good to have a regular prescription for love and intimacy, no matter how old you are. It is important in a way that our left brain doesn’t understand.”

She advocated for regular “date nights” when couples can share “what delights you both.” The septuagenarian said that in their 60s, she and her husband discovered an interest that boosted their mutual attraction.

“Michael agreed to learn ballroom dancing because my grandmother was a professional dancer, and he knew it had always been my dream,” Grossman, a grandmother of seven, said.

“It felt like the ultimate gesture of love, support and respect.”

Air your grievances

According to Grossman, big differences in opinion need not lead to “all-out war.”

“It’s easy to dwell on the other person’s mistakes and withdraw, amplifying the distance,” she told BI.

She said the healthy choice was to stay centered and communicate how much hurt you felt and why.

“The only way to resolve a situation is to address it,” she said. “People who stop and listen are more likely to realize their partner had the right to feel hurt.

“It takes time, but it will help them learn from their mistakes, change their behavior, and lead to forgiveness on both sides.”

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