The tradition of spending one’s wedding eve apart stems from marriage’s roots as a contractual obligation rather than a romantic one, Brides reported. Keeping the couple apart until the wedding was a way to ensure the bride’s virginity and create some mystery before the ceremony, as many unions were arranged.
But in 2019, the Pew Research Center reported that nearly half (48%) of adults in the US believe couples who live together before marriage have a better chance of having a successful relationship.
So, with more couples living together before tying the knot, the tradition has lost some appeal.
“You don’t need to change that dynamic of your relationship for one day,” Lara Mahler, founder and owner of The Privilege Is Mine, told BI. “So it’s like, wake up next to your partner. Also, why pay $1,000 for a hotel suite, you know, so that one person can stay in there?”
“Eat breakfast the way that you do together. If you like to work out together, go work out,” she added. “Do those things that will make you feel comfortable and give you that sense of security.”